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KEYS TO A HAPPY LIFE 2.

                KEYS TO A HAPPY LIFE.

               So friend, picking up from where we left off, here are the remaining tips I thought to share with you. Let's ride!🏄‍♂️

ENCOURAGE OTHERS:


  Everyday, we meet weak people. We see persons struggling with the level we scaled years before. We come across persons fighting battles we fought and overcame a long time ago. In our classrooms, on social media, in our areas of interest or career, and just everywhere.
            You remember how hard it was for you trying to start out?. Or maybe yours was bliss at the beginning. Yeah, it happens. You had no stress starting out. Probably, you were surrounded by the right persons, or you were just blessed. That’s a very nice one.  You're one of the very few, and I am happy for you🙌.
             However, that person by you, does not have it all rosy, and you know it. The newbie by you is having a really hard time figuring everything out, and you’re aware. What are you doing about it?. Why not dish out some tips that will help?. How about you say some nice words when the person comes to you with complaints, and threats of falling out?
             On one of the virtual platforms I'm in, someone raised an issue, that her friend was having a hard time stopping masturbation, and she asked for advice on how she could about ending it. And a lot of persons poured out advice, scriptural references, and tips they saw as useful. However, what caught my attention, was a lady who owned up to being there before, and related personal measures that helped her stop. Trust me, that would sound the loudest in the ear of that victim. It would speak "you are not alone". It would also say  "If I can stop it,  you can too!" 💆‍♀️
          That is exactly how life is. You who has been there before, should encourage more. Same goes to you who has not been there before. Just speak grace. Remember, we all venture into new things everyday. Be to others what you want them to be to you. When you encourage, and put a smile on someone’s face, double or more smiles will plaster yours soonest.

BE HUMBLE AND APOLOGIZE ASAP:


            Yeah..you heard that clearly. Apologize as soon as possible. Don't wait any second. You know why?..The next moment, you're analyzing the issue, and finding out new reasons why you are not wrong. Yeah..you may not be wrong in the end, but why not say sorry first?. That way, you err on the side of abundance. Whichever way the issue turns out in the end, you're not a debtor.
          Be humble. Life could be really funny. It gives a lot of shocks with no shock absorber, such that if we're not prepared, we'll definitely be thrown off balance.  Remember, we all are still going through life with blind folds. We have no guarantee of what the future holds. Even though many a times we sneak a peak, and have a glimpse, however, till that moment comes, it has still not come, and anything could happen. Tables could turn, so learn to live in the moments. Stop treating people based on what you see yourself as tomorrow. Please don't get me wrong. You’re free to think big, aim for the moon, and land amongst the stars and all others, which I also do. But while doing those, respect today. Respect the level people are in today, and respect them like you’ve already seen their great tomorrow. There is no better path to humility. This phase too, we’ll overcome. Let’s just pull through it the right way.
         These are the little gifts I could help you with, to ensure you navigate this course successfully and safely . Please use them now, and ever. Meanwhile, I’m done. Thank you for today again, and thanks for the last time too. I look forward to seeing you some other time. Input your email address into the subscribe tab, so you get the first heads-up, when next I make a post. Do stay safe, and take care. Your favourite writer, Joy💜.

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