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Overcoming anger.

             You're way too big! 

            Just one click, and you’re pissed off already...One reaction, and you’ve been taken off the hook....One word, and you’re swept off your feet.
             This is just one though. 
             Let’s assume you didn’t yield. Probably, you’re a bit stronger. However, sometimes it could be more. Your contenders may decide to take it a bit further. They give you in more doses, and how does it turn out? You get fed up, and, next thing, you blow up. You take everything and everyone down.
            Whichever scenario it is, why let them take the glory all the time? Why let them beat you hands down? Why let them push you to the wall?? Why let them get you annoyed?? Why let them drive you insane?
            And in just a minute more, you’re ranting all over. Losing control, like you never had the control before. You’re performing all sorts of stunts for the person who pressed that button. And in no time, you re-validate the tag they put on you before.
           Come on…we are talking about your life,friend. The one between you and your creator. Why let others guess it out for you? Why let them rule it for you?. Your life is unscripted, so don’t give the excuse of that’s how I am. You should work towards changing it. After all, we learn everyday.
           Many of the times, these things happen virtually. The more reason to take chill pills. The more reason to put off your data, toss your phone to the bedside, and say a silent prayer to God for more grace to phase through without giving in.
             Or at most, brush everything off with something lighter. But no, you wouldn’t do it. You know why?? You want to show that you have a perfect come back for the setback thrown at you🤦. You feel your ego is at stake, and you need to rescue it, before it’s buried. You think I have all the points to prove him wrong, so let me just roll them out anyway. Or more considerably, you say, I’ll just make this my last comment, and walk away.
      But no…it doesn’t happen that way. You know why?? Because everything doesn’t happen the way we plan it. You know that very well. Rain showing up as soon as you’re all set for an event reminds you of this everyday. The food vendor that doesn’t open after you have starved just to eat there reminds you of that too. What about when your mc for a party suddenly falls ill, and you have to substitute him/her with the last person to would have given that role. Or the day road traffic prevents you from meeting up with an event you spent a whole week planning for. You remember it all now?. That you really have little or no control over some things that happen in life?. And that is exactly how it plays out in the dispute. One thing leads to another, and before long, you’re washing your dirty linen in public once more. You’re giving them the credit again.
                Friend, jump very much higher than this level. You’re much bigger than this. How long would it take for you to come to this realization?. This one more time, don’t let them have their way. A lot of other things are begging for that attention you want to toss to that individual who doesn’t really need it. Don’t do this once more. There's more to life. Find them out, and give your attention to them. To be honest, practicing this is not easy, yeah, I can relate too😔. But let's take the decision first, and with God on our side, we'll get better at this🙌. Do take care and please share this post...the person by your side might need it😁. Your favourite writer, Joy💜.

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