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A truth in time, saves lives.


                Make a mental scene of you, telling a lie about something to someone. After some time, you're now asked to reiterate or defend it before a large number of persons, and you do so, to save face. Next up, people have adopted the lie, and expect to see your life in that light. Let's just say this is the point  where you decide you're not returning back on your words. Somehow, you forge ahead. However, as much as you dreaded it, you finally get to that point where you can't keep up any more. You come face to face with your fears, and end up in a fix. 



Pretty bad, innit? Most of the times, you either just sideline that life with no explanations, or you take the bold step of having to go back and tell everyone the truth.

Thing is this. Why go through all of that in the first place?? 

One of the new year resolutions I made, is to be truthful to myself and others, come what may. 

Reason?? For all that there is. 


Yes, we all have those sorry and embarrassing moments, where the chips are down and we don't even want to be seen. 

Moments like this though, are the more reason you tell you, the truth. 

You've been unproductive lately? Say it out loud to yourself. You're losing grip by the day? You've been wasting so much time? You've been finding it hard to keep up??  

Whatever it is, admit and say it first. Good feats inclusive. 

Begin by admitting to yourself. Learn to tell yourself the truth. Do it this way... "Okay Joy, you've not been excelling in this area, you can do much more better".

When it concerns telling the truth to others, think of it this way... " What's the worst that could happen? ". " What's the most they could do??

In most cases, it isn't usually anything irredeemable. 

I witness people putting out a lie before the whole wide world when they were not even asked. I hear them scream a lie, even when there's nothing at stake. 

Dear you... It is not a competition, we have different fights. It is not a sprint, but a marathon. And you have your unique lane. Don't downplay your efforts in front of people, by claiming to be what you're not. That person has struggles too. Take time. 

Be true to yourself. Inner peace starts from there. Admit it, and work on it. One more thing, it makes it easier when someone reiterates it. You'll now say... I've heard this before. I've said such to myself.. and I'm doing something about it". It gives you a comeback, and makes the weight of the other person's words lighter. 

Hi..Don't be the kind of person who tells and believes a lie. The one who feigns all sorts of lives. You're so much better than all that. Draw the line between manifesting faith, and saying the truth. 

Live your life, like it's your life. Don't bend with every new person that comes your way. Be in charge. 

It gets easier. You save yourself so much. It may not be easy, yeah, but it's most times a one time thing. You do it, and get over it there. 

Thank you for coming again. I believe you learnt something. Share your thoughts in the comment section below, and don't forget to come back when I hit your email again. Meanwhile, Have a beautiful day ahead. Your favourite writer, Joy💜.

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